It has finally happened. My daughter has asked for a mobile phone. She is 7.
The usual, expected stories have come out - "everyone else has one, her best friend is getting one from Santa, she can use it for music as well as calls.... the list she has formulated to her advantage is substantial.
And to some extent - I want to give her a phone. I would feel better knowing she could contact me whenever she wants. That I could come charging to her rescue! However, the reality is, I always know where she is! She is SEVEN! She's at home with me, at school or at her Grandparents or her Dad's house. They all have phones. She can use them to call me whenever she likes, and she does! :)
I came to thinking that actually, her request probably only seems scary to me because I'm still of the thinking that mobile phones are a new invention!!! (I still believe I'm 18 in my head). Whereas the reality is, that phones are the norm. Everyone has one!!! I couldn't do without mine. Not only is it my phone, it's my diary, my reminders, my alarm clock, my compass, my GPR, my MP3, my social networking service, my texting service, my email checker, my twittering tool, my camera AND my period tracker!!!!! As a result, if you are anything like me, phones are indispensable! My daughter knows this. She has seen this. My daughter has grown up watching mummy with her phone, most of the time. Isn't is therefore, natural that she should ask for one for Christmas? So, i begin my parental list of pro's and cons....
Benefits?
* I know where she is, she has constant access to me. She fit in with peers. She can text and call her friends, Dad, grandparents, me.
* If she gets into trouble, feels lonely, needs help, money or a lift in the car, she can call.
*She can use it for educational purposes, she can have apps that help her with school work, take photos, scan QR tags, google and research on the spot, wherever she is.
Negatives?
* She'll use it everywhere, at school, at home, out. It will distract her from 'important' things, like homework.
* It is expensive. Although, getting much cheaper all the time.
* Will texting effect her grammar and spelling? Will she disappear into an invisible social world and not actually see anyone.
* She will call me for lifts, money, sweets. She may not develop independence as much as if she has to fend for herself, risk and work out problems on her own without reaching straight for the phone first.
*and lastly - the Internet. It brings up so so so so many safety issues for my little girl. I want her to have a childhood on the beach, in the mud, tangible with friends who we see and laugh with in person, not just online. I don't want to lose her to texts, social networks and browsing just yet. I do not feel ready to give her full, un-censored Internet access, when she is 7, vulnerable, and impressionable.
So, I guess I have to make a decision as to what to do, because Christmas is just around the corner. Am I being overprotective by not giving her a phone? Am I safeguarding her? Am I stifling her natural inquisitiveness to want to use mobile Internet as a tool for learning and socialising? She's growing up in a technology-rich world, naturally wanting to engage with it.... should I empower her or harness the desire?
So, any parents or peers with any thoughts?? Help! Does your child have a mobile / cell phone?!